Being a part of this digital era, many of us find our so called soul mates through the social media, and many don’t. For the ones who don’t, they are often fooled and cheated upon by the ones they fall for. Many a times the profiles are fake ones and they ask for money saying they need money for some reason. And when a person is in love, he or she doesn’t think and just agrees to the things the other person says. Just by swiping left or right, you can just play with emotions and not select the love of your life. The best question is, are you looking for love or a way to kill your time? Applications like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Ok Cupid are on the list of top downloads.
When “it’s a match” pops up on an individual’s screen, they get a rush of endorphins, as if they are being awarded. When these matches and subsequent positive feelings keep coming at unforeseeable times, the user develops a latent attachment to the application. Security is not always guaranteed in the cyber world. People say that I like this boy/girl but I’ve never seen or met him/her. How can someone fall in love with a person you have never ever seen or met?
DANGERS OF ONLINE DATING:
1. Human Trafficking
With the rise in human trafficking, it’s not always safe for you to be meeting up with strangers. And guess what? These people love using social media to attract young people into hazardous situations that could get them into their trap. Be cautious when your new lover offers you a job or wants you to model for the. Job offers online are the latest route to lure young people into being trafficked.
2. Scams
Online safety and security is not always guaranteed in the cyber world. As much as you trust on your online partner, you could also be attacked online as a victim of identity theft or it even be scamming. Never ever send your bank account details, home address, Aadhar card number, your photographs or anything that could personally access them into your life especially if you’ve only met them online and never in person. People usually want to get into a relationship and then ask for money or nude pictures. Do not send any of these.
3. Risk of being sexually assaulted
No one knows a person’s true intentions until you know them personally or have met them. And in the case on online dating, you never know in person. Many sex offenders seek their next victim online and if you are underage, never meet someone alone as many of them coax people much younger than them. Always go with an adult, or with someone on whom you trust blindfolded to meet someone you have not ever seen and met online. If you decide to meet someone you met online, keep these things in mind:
- Always meet in a public place
- Always tell someone whom you are meeting and where are you going
- Never leave your drink unattended because you risk being spiked
- Never give anyone your personal information
- Always ask your friend or an adult to be with you
- Always share your location with someone you love
The signs of desperate daters are as follows:
1. They are always available.
2. Desperate daters are gluey.
3. They always need relationship status updates.
4. Such people chase compliments.
5. They drop their standards.
AND THE WORST OF ALL!
6. They drop their FRIENDS.
It is just that one must know how to use social media. If you use it properly by not harming someone’s emotions, rather I must say, by not playing with their emotions, then this creation of the internet is a great production.
Dating now has become like a joke. If you have nothing to do, so let’s start dating and let’s get into a relationship which will not even last for an entire month or even an entire week. So one person must be aware of such foolish people who just want to date in the sense of DESPERATION.
Negative effects on your life:
Let’s get to the potential negative effects on your life on your daily life – from your dating preference changing to your fluctuating confidence levels.
1. It makes you choosy.
On dating apps or websites, you’ll click a check mark if yes or swipe right if you like someone and vice versa if you don’t. You’ll just be seeing a photo, age, name and location of your potential match, which is really not a lot of information. So, one bad photo and you could be skipped. When we’re on our laptops, iPads, or phones, we have a screen and miles between us and the person we’re swiping left on, so perhaps we’re more likely to make quick judgments. In person, though, with someone looking at us in the eyes, we’d probably be more likely to give them the benefit of the doubt.
2. Self-esteem issues.
People, particularly men, who use Tinder and dating platforms like it, are more likely to experience lower self-esteem. Research shows that online dating could increase self-confidence, especially among women, who often receive more right swipes, likes, and messages than men. The moral of the story is to not take online dating too seriously — you shouldn’t let one person swiping right or left on your photo determine how successful you are. More than 49 million people have tried online dating, so there are practically an endless number of fishes in the sea. It can be very disappointing if you’re not matching with many people. A general advice is not to look for a confidence boost from dating apps and to go into the online-dating world already knowing your worth.
3. Obsession
As we mentioned earlier, swiping based on a photo and a couple of facts has sort of turned online and mobile dating into a game — it can be fun to make these quick judgments about people, right? His hair is too long — swipe left. Her eyes are blue instead of green — swipe left. He looks hot in a bathing suit — swipe right. She has perfect teeth — swipe right. These are not the things that great dates and relationships are made of.
It’s not unheard of for people to become obsessed with mindlessly swiping and/or voting yea or nay on matches. “The ease of remote dating, alongside personal boredom that’s likely present, provokes swiping left and right to be one’s desired activity for passing time,” said Slater Katz.
Always remember, the Pros are greater than Cons. With any new system, process or invention, there are bound to be some drawbacks. Online dating is no different. Along with it comes a few hitches. It is indeed addictive, some say it is superficial with fake profiles in it and some believe it is ego deflating. However, when you think of all the improvement it has brought to our love lives, you might say it is better to have it than not.
And I’m not saying that social media is all bad, but to be on the safer side, you really need to be careful with how and who you meet online. Social media helps people in so many good ways as well. Social media gets people meet their lost friends. People who have not met since possibly 17-18 years get in contact through social media. Social media is a platform for making money as well. In the days of lockdown and pandemic, where people lose their jobs, they start earning through different platforms, social media is one of those platforms.
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